I'm pretty damned liberal. I don't care who anyone dates or marries as long as they are happy. I don't care if your hair is purple or green or blonde, I don't care if you have tattoos and piercings, I don't care about your religion or political views.
That being said: I think that everyone needs to know the situation they are walking into and behave correspondingly. I wouldn't go for a job interview in a short skirt and tank top for instance. I wouldn't attend a college class in that outfit either. Yet young people are doing it every day. C'mon, guys, you have common sense, I've seen it! I don't care if you're 16 or 46, think about what you're doing and who could possibly see you or hear you and behave accordingly. Sure, you can say 'I'm expressing my individuality'. You can't live on individuality. Seriously. You'll starve to death in the freezing cold winter. You need a job, you need an education. If you feel that strongly about showing your individuality, go into a field where it's embraced. Honestly, with what I do and where I work - I have to look a certain way. I don't really care as I care more about what I do than how I look. Once you speak to me, my individuality shows through. You can't hide that.
Just take a minute and think about how much farther you'll travel (and faster too!) if you just quit rebelling quite so hard and be confident in who you really are.
Showing posts with label individuality. Show all posts
Showing posts with label individuality. Show all posts
Sunday, September 11, 2011
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
BE YOU!
I'm at a time in my life when I can feel perfectly free to be ME. Yes, everyone should feel free to be themselves their entire lives, but for some reason, as a teen or young adult, people will try to tell you how you should be.
My parents used to try to make me go outside to play. They would actually lock me out of the house. Well, guess what? I'm stubborn and unless I wanted to do it, I wasn't doing it. All they did was create a wall against the outdoors in me. Once I moved out and was on my own, I discovered that I love to play games outside and ride bikes and camp and raft/canoe...all sorts of things. But their insistence on it made me rebel.
My college roommate hated that the majority of my friends were male. She thought it made me look like a whore. Please. Men and women can honestly be friends without sex entering into it. I've had many male friends and chances are I was trying to help them fix their relationships and talk them out of being stupid, not trying to sleep with them. Ewwwww!
I was criticized for 'job hopping' by someone who had the same job for over 25 years and would retire from that same job. I really hope that she loved what she was doing and had been happy that entire time. Me, I was trying to figure out what I wanted to do. I mean, I knew what I was good at, but didn't know how I could implement it in a job. I'm good at being in charge, organising and getting people involved. It took a long time, but finally someone else saw my talents and here I am! I love my job and wouldn't trade it for anything - I've worked at my current place of employment for almost 10 years now - that's amazing for me - I never worked anywhere more than a couple years before.
People often say to me 'When are you going to grow up and listen to other kinds of music?' What?! I listen to all kinds of music, I just prefer punk. I'm sure I don't LOOK like I listen to punk, but let me tell you a secret kiddies...you can't tell what people are like by looking at them. I have a goth/punk soul and it shines. I look the way I do so that I can work where I love to work...but that doesn't mean I have to be boring or listen to what others listen to. I adore the Fratellis and Ramones and Violent Femmes. If possible, I would wear all black and dye my hair funky colors and cut it all weird. But I can't. That doesn't change who I am.
My parents used to try to make me go outside to play. They would actually lock me out of the house. Well, guess what? I'm stubborn and unless I wanted to do it, I wasn't doing it. All they did was create a wall against the outdoors in me. Once I moved out and was on my own, I discovered that I love to play games outside and ride bikes and camp and raft/canoe...all sorts of things. But their insistence on it made me rebel.
My college roommate hated that the majority of my friends were male. She thought it made me look like a whore. Please. Men and women can honestly be friends without sex entering into it. I've had many male friends and chances are I was trying to help them fix their relationships and talk them out of being stupid, not trying to sleep with them. Ewwwww!
I was criticized for 'job hopping' by someone who had the same job for over 25 years and would retire from that same job. I really hope that she loved what she was doing and had been happy that entire time. Me, I was trying to figure out what I wanted to do. I mean, I knew what I was good at, but didn't know how I could implement it in a job. I'm good at being in charge, organising and getting people involved. It took a long time, but finally someone else saw my talents and here I am! I love my job and wouldn't trade it for anything - I've worked at my current place of employment for almost 10 years now - that's amazing for me - I never worked anywhere more than a couple years before.
People often say to me 'When are you going to grow up and listen to other kinds of music?' What?! I listen to all kinds of music, I just prefer punk. I'm sure I don't LOOK like I listen to punk, but let me tell you a secret kiddies...you can't tell what people are like by looking at them. I have a goth/punk soul and it shines. I look the way I do so that I can work where I love to work...but that doesn't mean I have to be boring or listen to what others listen to. I adore the Fratellis and Ramones and Violent Femmes. If possible, I would wear all black and dye my hair funky colors and cut it all weird. But I can't. That doesn't change who I am.
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